Gifts from the Heart: Thoughtful Gift Ideas for a Loved One Living with Dementia

As a care partner to someone living with dementia, you already know that the most valuable gift you can offer is your time, love, and presence. The moments you share, the care you provide, and the memories you create together are priceless.

But when you’re looking for a tangible gift – whether for a birthday, holiday, or special occasion – it can sometimes be hard to know where to start. If you’re looking for ideas, here are some thoughtful and practical suggestions that take into account the needs and abilities of your loved one, while also making their daily life more comfortable and enjoyable.

1. “Think About the Person”

When choosing a gift, consider your loved one's interests, preferences, and abilities. What are their favourite activities or hobbies? What can they still do with joy and success? Keep in mind their abilities that are still preserved, and think about gifts that can help them feel engaged, independent, and supported. Simple, functional gifts often have the most impact.

 2. “Safety First”

Always think about safety when selecting gifts. Avoid anything that could pose a risk, such as sharp objects or small items that could be a choking hazard. Keep the environment safe and easy to navigate, and choose gifts that will help your loved one feel secure and comfortable.

 3. “Simple is Best”

When it comes to dementia, simplicity is key. Gifts don’t have to be complicated or expensive to be meaningful. The most cherished gifts are often those that make life a little easier, more enjoyable, or provide a sense of purpose.

Gift Ideas Based on Montessori for Dementia Care

**Organisation and Independence**

- **Brightly coloured baskets** for storing items like glasses, hearing aids, or keys. These make it easier for your loved one to find what they need each day.

- **Drawer organisers** for clothing such as socks, underwear, and accessories. These can help reduce clutter and make it easier for your loved one to find things.

- **Shoe rack** to display shoes in an organised way, making it easier to see and select their favourite pair.

Orientation and Connection

- **Large print location signs** for rooms and important spaces (e.g. bathroom, kitchen, living room). Clear signage helps orient your loved one to their environment.

- **Clock with large numbers (Dementia Clock) ** or a simple desk or wall clock can help them easily check the time and keep track of the day.

- **Wall calendar** (monthly or daily) that provides a visual reminder of the date, helping them stay oriented.

- **Whiteboard or dry-erase board** where important notes, reminders, or appointments can be written, allowing them to refer to it as needed.

- **Memory or agenda book** to record daily events, appointments, and reflections. This can also be used to write down thoughts, feelings, or important memories.

Sensory and Hands-On Activities

- **Fabric swatches** to explore different textures or patterns.

- **Birdhouse kits** for a simple hands-on project that encourages creativity.

- **Object sorting baskets** – A collection of objects that can be sorted into categories, such as buttons, shells, or other familiar items.

- **Simple puzzles** with familiar images or photos, designed to be engaging but not frustrating.

Creative Expression and Music

- **Art supplies** like paints, brushes, paper, and canvases encourage creative expression, which can be both soothing and stimulating.

- **Music player (CD player or MP3 player)** preloaded with favourite songs, or even a simple Alexa device that plays music when requested. Music has been shown to have a positive effect on mood and memory.

- **Songbook** with large, clear lyrics that your loved one can sing along to, if they enjoy music.

Communication and Memory

- **Books and magazines** featuring topics that interest your loved one.

- **Personalised word searches** or crossword puzzles that include names of family members, favourite foods, and places they love.

- **Portable tape recorder** where you can record messages that your loved one can listen to over and over. These might be comforting reminders or special messages from family and friends.

- **Memory book** made together, filled with meaningful photos and memories. You can create a scrapbook-style book, adding a photo and a short, personalised sentence to describe it. This can become a treasured keepsake for both of you.

Comfort and Movement

- **Comfortable walking shoes** that are easy to put on and supportive.

- **Lightweight sweatshirt** or cardigan for warmth and comfort.

- **Walking aid** (cane or walker) if needed, to provide safety and stability when moving around.

- **Lightweight weights** for simple physical exercises, under the guidance of a doctor or therapist, to help maintain strength and mobility.

Being and Belonging

At the heart of it all, we all need to feel connected, valued, and part of a community. By showing affection, expressing gratitude, and recognising the contributions your loved one makes, you can strengthen their sense of belonging. Whether it’s a simple thank you or a shared activity, these small gestures remind them that they are loved and appreciated.

 Let Go of Expectations

While gifts and activities can bring joy, it’s important to let go of any expectations about how things should go. Don’t worry if a gift doesn’t have the impact you hoped for, or if a planned activity doesn’t go as expected. What matters most is the love and connection you share. In the end, your loved one will remember how you made them feel – and that is the greatest gift of all.

Whatever you choose, remember that it’s the thought, care, and love behind the gift that truly counts.